Tuesday, 7 May 2013

Active Listening (Irfan)


1) If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?

    I will stop talking and get rid of all distractions to continue to listen.

2)Do you ever find yourself wanting to jumping because you are eager to share?

    Yes.

3)How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?

   I can listen to hear if we have similar thoughts or ideas then listen when there is time to talk.

4)What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others.

   We can mentally prepare for what we are talking about.

5)Can we ask them up front for what they are looking for?

   It depends on the topic.

6)How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?

   I would be a bit disappointed that the person would interrupt me.


Active Listening Individual Reflection (Muhammad Ibrahim Bin Azmansah 12)


Do you ever find yourself speaking up to soon?
Yes
-If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
I will try to relax myself and my mind to wait for the person to ask for my opinion, suggestions or comments.
-Do you ever find yourself waiting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes but not always.
-How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
I would try to empathize the person talking so that i can channel my excitement into listening
-What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
think of the topic and think of how to elaborate and answer questions that might be asked
-Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
(advice, a sounding board, solutions)
No, we should slowly start the conversation and soon enough he/she can state what they are looking for so that they do not feel awkward.
-How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
I would feel annoyed

Active Listening (Ryan)

Do you ever find yourself speaking up to soon?
Sometimes I find myself voicing out without thinking, and the impulsiveness is less than welcome.

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
Personally, I prefer not listening to the person in the first place if the person is not important  or if the subject we are talking about is irrelevant or unimportant, as your mind will "shut down".

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
I rarely find myself in that situation, but I sometimes do. 

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
We exercise this self control by suppressing the urge to share. 

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
We can constantly remind ourselves what we were discussing and the topics that are relevant to the person you will be talking too

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
No.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
I will derail my train of thought.

Active Listening (Ikmal)

Do you find yourself speaking up too soon?
I find myself speaking up too soon.

If so, how can you clear your mind to clearly listen?
I can clear my mind to fully listen by listening to what other people have to say and polish my ideas while listening to them and when they are finished speaking, I would voice out my ideas.


Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes because there are some errors in the person's ideas and I want to correct them and my idea could also be better than theirs.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the opportunity to share?
I can channel my excitement by listing down mentally all the ideas that I have and what I want to say before I am given the opportunity to speak.

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
I can make up some ideas and adjust them to suit the needs of the conversation.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for? (advice, a sounding board, solutions)
We can ask what they are looking for when they are not talking to anyone else.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
I would feel a little irritated because I would not be able to continue thinking and I might forget about the idea.

Active listening - Li Ying

Do you ever find yourself speaking up so soon?
Yes.

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
I think that we must first cool down and put everything at the back of our brains before listening to someone carefully.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Rarely.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
We should first listen to the other party if there is any common points in the conversation and then after what he or she has said finished, we could then share our excitement.

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
We should listen to others first what they are saying, then ask relevant questions at the right time.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
It depends on what type of situation or question they are looking for.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
It feels annoying as it makes me lose my trails of thoughts. 

Individual Reflection (Ben Cheong 5)

Do you ever find yourself speaking up to soon?
Yes, I do find myself speaking up too soon.

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
We have to pay attention to what other people is saying and clear our minds of other factors that we are thinking of saying even before the other person finish talking.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
We can try to focus on the topic at hand, and pay proper attention to the speaker, also picking up the important points. We can also exercise self control.

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
We can constantly remind ourselves of what the topic is.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
No.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
I will lose my train of thought.

Active Listening (Afif)

Do you ever find yourself speaking too soon?
Yes.

- If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
  I can stop getting distracted by other things around me. I also can maintain eye contact with the speaker.

- Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
  Yes.

- How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
  I wait patiently until the person is done with his/ her statement.

- What else can you do to prepare for conservations with others?
  I can get my conservation planned out so that I know what to say.

- Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
  It depends on the type of question that we are asking.

- How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
  It makes me feel frustrated when I am cut of in the middle and maybe my impression of the person would change.

Active Listening activity ( Tan Ming Chuan )

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?

Yes

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?

I focus on the perspon and ignore all potential distractions

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?

Yes

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?

I think of the importance of the topic to the speaker and access the situation accordingly.

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others? 

I can think up of situations that might occur during the conversation such that i must change the topic.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?

This applies only for certain topics, where it is appropriate to get straight to the point.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?

I feel angry, as after i lose my train of thoughts, it is hard to get it back on track.

INDIVIDUAL REFLECTION LIM ING (03)

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
Yes, at times.

If so, how can you clear your mind to clearly listen?
I can collect my thoughts before it is my turn to spak. This way, i can listen to the person speaking and not lose my train of thought at the same time.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?

No.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?

I usually try to control myself from speaking before the person speaking finishes by thinking of what I want to say first.


What else can you do to prepare for convosations with other?
I can collet my thoughts first.


Can we ask them up front what they're looking for?
Yes


How does it make you feel when someone cuts you off in the middle of your thought.
I would feel annoyed.







Active Listening

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?

Yes.


If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?

Pay much attention to the speaker, don't think of other things that are not related to the topic .


Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?

Yes, I do


How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?

We should learn to control our excitement, and resist our urge to speak suddenly and randomly


What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?

We can defer judgement and respond appropriately. This means we must not interrupt others when speaking and when they finally finish we can start saying what we think or what's our opinion on the specific topic. Even if we are listening, others might think we are not, so whenever in a conversation show that you are listening


Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?

We should just ask them, but not too much as they might feel embarassed


How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?

I will feel especially irritated due to the fact that I have been cut off rudely without even finishing what I want to say

Active Listening activity (Shaun Neo)

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
Yes.

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
We can clear our minds of what we want to say before we say it, and listen to the other person and wait until he finishes talking before you begin to talk.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
I can think of what to say next, and try to process what they are talking about.

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
I can think of a topic and elaborate on the topic in my mind.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
It solely depends on the importance and sensitivity of the question.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thoughts?
It makes me annoyed and slightly impatient.

Active Listening Individual Reflection (Shaquille)

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?

Yes I do.

If so, how can you clear up your mind to fully listen?

I can pay attention to the person by looking at him directly, putting aside distracting thoughts, not mentally prepare a reply and by avoiding being distracted by environmental factors.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because  you are eager to share? 

Yes I do.

How can you channel you excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?

I can do so by being patient and think of a response after the person finishes talking.

What else can you do to prepare for conversation with others? 

I can come up with responses that I could expect while talking to them.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for? 

Yes, but we should make some small talk so that they do not feel bad or embarrassed.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?

It is quite annoying to me as I would forget what I wanted to say.

Active listening Individual reflection (YeoTzunKai)


Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
-If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
I can relax and to calm down , wait and listen to the person you are talking and comment if I have any after the person finishes speaking
-Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes I do.
-How can you channel your excitement into listening and ait for the proper opportunity to share?
We can ask the person that I have something to tell him and then I keep calm and when he is listening then say it. 
-What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
You can practice in front of the mirror
-Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
It actually depends like if he want  to listen or not
-How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
Sometimes I may lose my train of thought and forget what I want to say

Active Listening - Dylan

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
Yes, sometimes I may be speaking up too soon before the person who I am talking to us done saying what they have to.


• If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
I can try to listen what the person has to say first before cutting them off or giving personal opinions to respect the person. I can also try and make it a good habit not to talk while others are talking to show them the respect that they receive and they will not feel insulted and will know that others are talking to them.

• Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes, I do. Many of the times I want to jump in to a topic that I am interested in to let others know about my interest.

• How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
I can wait until everyone has finished sharing their thoughts before I share mine.

• What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
I can try to plan out my thoughts before anyone starts talking so that I do not waste time thinking about what I need to say while it is my turn to share.

• Can we ask them up front what they are looking for? (advice, a sounding board, solutions)
I think if it is advice and everyone knows about the topic, yes. If it is a free-talk topic where everyone shares their own views I do not think it is a good idea.

• How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
It makes me feel agitated and frustrated as sometimes it makes me forget about what I want to say.

Active Listening - Michael Chun (11)

Active Listening

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
Yes.

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
I can stay focus on the person who is talking and not be distracted.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
Yes.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
I have to be patient and control my excitement. I can change my mindset to think that I will have my chance to share as long as I am patient.

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
When they have finished talking, I should then think of what to talk about.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for? (advice, a sounding board, solutions)
I feel that this is rude and shows that you are an impatient person. It will be better if you wait for them to finish talk about.

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
I will feel very irritated and angry as I am rudely interrupted.

Active Listening

Qn:   Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
Ans: Yes.

Qn:   If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
Ans: By putting my thoughts to the back of my head and listen to the other party.

Qn:   Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in to because you are eager to share?
Ans: Yes.

Qn:  How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
Ans: Listen to see if we have any common points and if we have anything in common we could talk about it together.

Qn:  What else can you do to prepare for conversation ans with others?
Ans: We can ask proper questions at the right times.

Qn:  Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?
Ans: It depends on who we are talking to. If we know the other party, then it is alright to ask them. However, it also depends on the types of questions that we are going to ask.

Qn:  How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thoughts?
Ans: It makes me feel as though the other person has no manners. It makes me feel upset that I am not able to state my full point or opinion.

Active Listening (Wun Juan)

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon? 
Yes. I find myself speaking up too soon sometimes.

-If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen? 
I will try to tell myself to stop wanting to speak, and try to change my mindset into listening. I also can try to pay attention by having eye contact with the speaker.

-Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share? 
Yes, when I have many ideas to share, I will want to jump in.

-How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
I will try to wait for the speaker to say finish what he/she have to say, and wait for the proper opportunity to share. This will be more polite rather than just interrupting the speaker.

-What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others? 
We can prepare by asking them or raising up your hand to signal that you are going to converse with the others.

-Can we ask them up front what they are looking for? (advice, a sounding board, solutions) 
Its depends on what type of questions that we came out with.

-How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your though
I find it quite difficult sometimes to remember what I am going to say as I am being cut off.

Individual Reflection - Active Listening (AIN)

Yes, I would always find myself speaking up too soon because at times I am eager to share or do not think before speaking.

I can clear myself by to fully listen by giving myself some time to think before sharing something. I think that by being patient, I can clear my excitement into listening and waiting for the proper opportunity to share. I will also keep in mind to be mindful of the others talking so that I would not cut the off when they talk.

I don't see a point in preparing for conversations with others as conversations are usually impromptu and are continued naturally.

I think it depends on the situation to ask them up front what they are looking for. 

I think I would feel annoyed when I get cut offed in the middle.

Individual reflection

Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon?
Yes

If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen?
I should calm myself down,think carefully about my thoughts and say whatever I wanted to say

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?
No

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share?
I can do that by waiting for the right opportunity to arise before sharing what I thought

What else can you do to prepare for conversations with others?
We can  prepare what questions we would expect from the audience.

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for? (advice, a sounding board, solutions)

Most of the time, yes. Some people may feel uncomfortable saying the exact point and would prefer the one they are talking to to understand what they say.


How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thought?
Extremely annoying if it is repeated. 


Do you ever find yourself speaking up too soon
If so, how can you clear your mind to fully listen

No.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to jump in because you are eager to share?

No.

How can you channel your excitement into listening and wait for the proper opportunity to share.

Just wait patiently

What else can you do yo prepare for conversations with others?

Nothing, just wait

Can we ask them up front what they are looking for?

Yes

How does it make you feel to be cut off in the middle of your thoughts?

I lose my trial of thoughts, my problem.